It's that ultra busy time of the year. The weather turns cold and unpredictable. There is pressure to plan, decorate, shop, organize, cook and bake to impress. All this while living regular life too, like going to the grocery store, doing laundry and showing up at work and being productive. It's a lot of distraction, and it can feel like a lot of pressure.
Now is the time to consider how you'd like to show up for yourself in the next month. Thinking about what makes the holidays fun for you is a good start. Is it the decorating? Is it the lights? Is it the family traditions? If so, don't let go of what makes this festive for you. Next, think about the activities, outings, pot lucks, parties, entertaining that might happen. What is fun in all of that for you? If there is something that's on the calendar, but it really doesn't bring you joy and feels more like an obligation, then maybe you pass this time. Finally, think about what you can do for yourself to keep sane during this hectic time. What are the things that relax you and dial down the tension in your life? Maybe more physical activity might help manage stress. Maybe taking more frequent breaks at work to walk and drink more water would fit into your schedule. Maybe finding a buddy to go to a fitness class just to stay accountable might feel like a social release and a stress relief. Maybe going to bed earlier to get more rest might do the trick. When it seems like life is moving too fast, simply slow down for yourself. Take note of the things you are doing that are helping and those that are not helping. If you feel more stressed at the thought of another night out or more shopping after a long day, then take a break and take your life back. Dial back the expectations so that you can enjoy yourself this time of year too.
This is the time when ultra rich, heavy foods laden with sugar, saturated fat and calories seem to show up everywhere. Stress will make it too easy to indulge too often. Consider the treats that matter to you the most--and save yourself for those. Slow down long enough to enjoy them in a mindful way. They will mean more. Ignore anything that is ho-hum, not that good or nor really your favorite.
The month of December could be the month of self care, if you set yourself up for it. This could be the time where you are actually enjoying the season because you are managing your expectations and eliminating excess. For me, sending cards with photos of my girls is part of the holiday season. I like doing it, and although it takes a lot of time, it is worth it to me. It is a tradition I choose to keep. As for all the cookie baking, that tradition had to change. I can't bake like I used to, because I will look like Santa in no time. I like eating those homemade cookies too much. If someone asks me to bake for them, I will do it, and I will deliver those cookies promptly, but you won't find a cookie tray at my house. This is a tradition that I am comfortable giving up. It doesn't work for me anymore. It took me a long time to figure it out.
Whatever you do with the month of December, remember that the greatest gift you have comes from your heart. It doesn't need a ribbon or gift wrap. It comes out in your words, gestures, kindnesses. That is truly a gift that keeps on giving.
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